Some days, I’m not so proud to be an American. A federal judge today ordered the Trump administration to resume accepting transgender people into the military by January 1. I think this is an amazing win for trans people. All of us homos and trans folks have protected our rights and freedoms long before we were born and we’ll be doing it a hell of a long time after you and I are dust.
In thumbing through the myriad posts in social media, I didn’t really expect to find a lot of vocalized support, given the current political climate. What I did find though shocked me.
I didn’t find even ONE post praising this action. What I did find is some of the most vile, disgusting, sickening and downright evil hate rhetoric I have ever read in my entire life. I expected it to be localized to the South. I was, however, seeing it emanating from all over. Reading some of that junk was almost like listening to a George Wallace or Eugene Talmadge speech.
I don’t really know what to do with this. If anyone has any suggestions, I’m all ears. I’m just profoundly sad that we aren’t any more enlightened than we are in 2017. I can’t even begin to know what to say to try to comfort my trans friends. Some do better than others with this. There are a few who are often crushed by the almost constant onslaught of vitriol they’re forced to endure day after day after day.
To my trans friends, and you know who you are, I find you all so strong & so brave. I wish I had a tenth of what you bring to the table. I’d crumble under what you’re forced to process and deal with. I want you to know that you’re loved by me. It isn’t much, but love is the one thing that I have in limitless supply that I can give you every day. If you need a safe space to smile, laugh, cry, yell, or whatever, my door is absolutely open and a kitchen full of food and beer awaits you.
Do this one thing for me, please. Drop what you’re doing and call your trans friends. Make sure they know how much you love them, how much they mean to you and exactly how much their gender doesn’t make a damn to how much you value their kinship in this world.